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Conquering your FEAR

 Conquering your Fear

By Jodie Wilson

Jodie Wilson

Jodie Wilson


As I was sitting at my computer thinking about my article for this month..Bing you have a e-mail from Debbie Allen, International Business Speaker and author of “Confessions of Shameless Self Promoters” . I had many topics rolling around in my head I wanted to write about this month but I had not narrowed it down to one. So I decided to take a break and read her thoughts for today.

The Title “Why would we allow Fear to Control us?” grabbed my attention and I thought it is perfect to share.

With all of my new adventures over the past two years, FEAR seems to be my constant state. Most of us know fear as a negative.  Debbie shows us how to turn it into a positive.


Many of us never truly follow through with our dreams and aspirations in life mostly because fear holds us back from taking the next step.  But just imagine how much you are missing out on by allowing an emotion to control your life.

Why would we allow fear to control us?

Mostly because we look at it with short sightedness … we don’t want to be embarrassed, look
foolish, be wrong or make a mistake. What we fear is fear of the unknown.  Yet everything
new and exciting is unknown to us at first and we are destined to fail at some degree.  That is

Fear can be your friend and offer you excitement and empowerment as well.  Therefore, if you
can think of fear as more of an adrenalin rush, it can actually catapult you forward and help
you excel toward lofty goals.

Even successful, confident people are afraid of making changes and trying new things.  The
difference between successful people and those who are not successful is that they ACT in
spite of that fear. They feel the fear and move past it. This allows them to feel more confident.

5 Ways to Overcome Fear Fast

1. Acknowledge Your Feelings and Emotions
Feelings and emotions can be changed by the words you speak to yourself.  Speak kind words
of encouragement. Tell yourself that moving past your fear will reward you with more confidence,
knowledge and personal growth.  You are worth it!

2. Don’t Waste Energy Focusing on Failure
Failure is simply a lesson in disguise. With everything new we do there is some level of failure
that is necessary to learn and grow both personally and professionally.

3. Share Your Fears and Ask for Support
When you share your fears with someone make sure that person is someone who will help you
stretch and move outside of your comfort zone. If you share your fears with someone who is
also fearful it can hold you back and keep you stuck. Find a support system with a positive
mentor who’s confidence and success you admire.

4. Discover Inspiration from Books and CDs
Everyone needs motivation and inspiration. We all have days when our energy and thoughts
are low, and often by taking time to yourself and reading or listening to uplifting words of
wisdom or even inspiring music your mood can shift and move you to a more positive light.

5. Feel the Fear and ACT Anyway
The feeling of fear can actually be worse than actually acting on it.  Most of our comfort
zones are not all that comfortable anyway. Move outside, take a risk, enjoy life to the fullest
and live a life of passion and new experiences.

If you are not scaring yourself you are not moving forward in life.

“If you want the best in your personal and professional life … never settle for less than you deserve!” – Debbie Allen

She finishes with, “If you are not scaring yourself you are not moving forward in life.”